Find Your Way Back

Yes, it’s a tribute to the Beyonce song. I couldn’t help myself.

My idea of being grounded is always changing. It could be considered a red flag in the spiritual community if you ask me. Thankfully, I was able to see the light today though. I mean this quite literally too. As I decided to sit in the sun for a long overdue meditation, I gained some serious clarity on what being grounded truly means for me.

I hadn’t meditated for a few months, and so I was hesitant on what the outcome would be. I was greeted with a warm welcome as the sun shone on my face and caused me to sit up straight. Typically, I’m met with a surge of emotions, and the task of staying focused. Today somehow seemed to be different. Even when I could hear footsteps around me, and the grandpa who’d sat on a bench behind me briefly, I was able to maintain a steady focus.

Now I understand that I was meant to be in that energy. My meditation was all about staying grounded. Previously, I had just thought that meant knowing how to sit outside comfortably, and being present in the everyday world. This afternoon’s moment revealed to me much more. As I sat there mentally scanning my body with my face up to the sun, it dawned on me. I was still. And not still in a way where I’m not fidgeting every other moment. But still where I could sit there, eyes closed, and home in on the energies I wanted to tap into. So, as I allowed the world to exist around me, I listened carefully to what I was being told.

Simply put, to be grounded, is to have a good balance between the physical and the spiritual reality. It is learning how to be grounded in both, to create a perfect harmony. I remember hearing during my meditation that spirituality is not a glow stick. It cannot be bent to provide great light. It must be honoured and respected as it stands. That one stuck with me as it made total sense. We spend most of our time trying to stay present in the physical 3D as that’s what we feel we experience most. Do you ever find that you accidentally get too caught up spiritually? As much as you get caught up in a job, you also get lost in trying to understand the underlying energies of the universe. It’s easy to focus too much on one yet neglect the other. I know I’m guilty of this.

We almost realise that we aren’t grounded when it’s a little too late. This can look like realising you lack faith in the universe, or you’re overdoing it at work or in your relationships by trying to force certain outcomes. You’ll know you need to get grounded when you’re in too deep one aspect, that you can’t see the other. I want to add that staying grounded is not easy. Hence why I say I’m guilty of having been way out of touch. It’s a task to try and balance the existence of two entities, especially when one is more visibly prominent. The beauty in this is that it’s a constant learning journey. We can reflect and utilise the lessons we learn to better understand our existence and how it feels.

My number one tip to get grounded, is to just let go. Often, we can have such a grip on something, usually to our detriment. We hyper fixate on whatever it is and we don’t allow room for the universe to exist outside and within us. Take it from me, when your personal hand is doing more harm than good, it’s time to take a step back and let things be. This leads me to my next tip: step outside. When we’ve lost our equilibrium, it’s because there’s an unbalance. That’s why we feel ungrounded. By stepping back, you allow yourself to gain a bigger perspective on how you’ve been trying to dictate your own harmony. When you’re too deep into one side, you lose the ability to see how this can affect the other aspects outside of this. It’s almost like a harmful tunnel vision. Let yourself zoom out for a minute and then make your way back.

As someone who has their own struggles with finding a decent balance, I can say that it’s important to not beat yourself up over it. Learning how to merge your realities to best suit you are a huge task. It can take a lot of time and introspection to really know what works well for you. So, allow yourself to study your existence within both your spiritual and physical reality. Take note of how you show up in each, then figure out ways to create that harmony in which you feel you can thrive. Our existence is complicated yet beautiful, try not to forget that.